
Giving Praise to our Children
Praise is a magic ingredient, it is a way to show our children that we are really pleased and grateful for their actions. It helps our children to feel good about themselves and when they are pleased with themselves, they will repeat the action that gets them praise.
When praising your child, please don't just say to them "well done", tell them what it is you are proud of so that they know you are really interested. If it is a piece of art work, talk about what your favourite bit is, ask them what bit they like the most. Please don't be tempted to say "well done, it's lovely, what is it?" If you are unsure, just ask them to tell you all about it and hopefully, during that conversation they will tell you what it is. When you are praising your child, give them your full attention so they know you are really listening. Praise does not have to be verbal, it can also be a thumbs up, a hug, a high five, a sticker on a chart, a marble in a jar - you all know your children and what works better for them.
Sometimes, you might find it really hard to find something that you can praise your child for. You might have had a really bad day with no visible good choices having been made by your child, but believe me, you can always find something, however small it may be. If you really really can't find that tiny good thing then try praise for 'being' instead of praise for 'doing'. Praise for being could be something such as "I love your shiny hair, I love your smiley face, I love the way that you hug me" - anything that will make your child feel good about themselves.
One final comment, always praise your child before they go to sleep at night, it will make for a happier child and a happier you, however bad the day has been.
Our thought for the week is:
When you compliment your child, praise them for inner qualities such as honesty, kindness and perseverance so they will strive to contribute to the world in a meaningful way.
If you have a parenting concern, you can contact Mrs Easty via the school office - admin@burlingtoni.org.uk